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Did you know that you can use a simple communication technique to embed commands within your conversations? This is an easy tool to learn, and particularly with young children it is **very** effective.

The name of the tool sounds weird - "Embedded commands". But the truth is that this technique was invented by Dr. MIilton H. Erickson. You probably have never heard of him. He was a genius and he helped a lot of people in his life. He was psychiatrist who specialized in medical hypnosis and family therapy. He pretty much invented the field of indirect hypnosis.

Remember that I use hypnosis and NLP techniques to deal with kids. If my daughter has a hard time sleeping, or an upset stomach I'll absolutely use trance and hypnosis to help her overcome the problem. I do NOT teach hypnosis in the Talking to Toddlers audio course. Instead, I borrow some of the key concepts that you can make use of in everyday interaction with your kids.

Embedded commands is one such example. Simply put, imagine that you want to emphasize something. You can say it loud, you can slow down your words, or you can make a big gesture with your hands. Or maybe you put your hand on someone's shoulder when you are emphasizing something.

Imagine you wanted your child to start to become ready for bed. You could tell a simple story (true or made up) and mark out a portion of your sentence that your child's unconscious mind will hear as a command. The command could be "you are ready for bed".

Milton Erickson used this technique with his secretary, who suffered from migraine headaches. She would get a migraine and he would insist that she type out his dictations (back in the typewriter days). He would dictate utter nonsense to her, but he would slip in suggestions about "the pain is easing", and "start to feel much better". After 10 minutes of dictation she would have no more headache.

I hope this convinces you how powerful of a tool set it is that I can offer you. When you use embedded commands on your kids you can cause them to listen and act according to your commands more often. They won't realize what you are doing, so there is no resistance.

Let me make a final comment about embedded commands. The tool is not some magic wand. You can't just utter some simple words and have people follow your commands. This is not some weird mind control. It's about planting seeds of suggestion in a covert way. If you wanted to plant a tree you would probably plant SEVERAL seeds. It's the same with these tools. You plant several "seeds of suggestion" and you do it in a specific way. I teach you how to do this in my course.


My wife always used to laugh when I told her about the power of these tools. Initially, as a stay at home mom, she used to get very stressed out.

I'd come home around dinner time and she would literally need an hour or two just to unwind after the kids were in bed. She would always hand them off to me when I got home. She figured that the reason they were suddenly so calm and well behaved was because I was not around them all day prior to taking over.

I remember the day when she finally saw the light and decided to learn these tools for herself. The kids were really in a mood and were screaming. I walked in the front door. I immediately entered their world as I described earlier in my emails to you, and then I launched into a series of embedded commands, along with some confusion techniques. Within 2 minutes, I had the kids totally calm, and we were having FUN.

As I was using these communication tools, I was looking over at my wife giving her a look. The look meant, "You know what I'm doing, you should start taking this seriously so you can get the exact same results".

That was the day she saw the light.

So,If you really want to learn how to take control of your out-of-control kids, then you should get serious about it now

Từ nào làm phát sinh cơn ăn vạ của bé

let's talk about the often-faced problem of having to say "no" to your child. In my experience, many tantrums begin simply because a toddler or child goes up to Mom or Dad and says, "I want this" (whatever "this" is). It might be a cookie before dinner, but it can be anything. Toddlers ask us for things, or ask us to do things for them all the time. Sometimes, as parents, we just can't deliver or we aren't willing to deliver.


Usually, I find that the moment you say "no" to your child, the tantrum begins. I want to tell you that there are much better ways to communicate so that you won't cause a tantrum. I teach this to you in detail during the audio course, but let me give you a tip right now.


Here it is: Enter your child's world! We already talked about a few days ago, but here is how you apply it. Instead of saying "no", you simply say, "So you are asking me ....(fill in the blank)".


Whatever your child is asking you for, it is FAR better to repeat their request to them so that they know you heard them and understand them. Then, after you've done that (to build rapport), you can move onto various methods of distraction or logical progression.

Làm thế nào để bé có cảm giác mình được tự chọn

How to enter your child's world and then get them to actually do what you want them to do.

Let's jump right in. Pretend your son, Tommy, is really engrossed in a TV show, but it is now time for supper. Your task is to get him to come to he table without a fight.

As you already learned, you begin by entering his world. You might go sit beside him and ask him a few (interested sounding) questions about the TV show. When you've successfully entered his world then you have completed step 1. Easy enough.

What do you do next? There are so many options that I can teach you, but I'll pick one that is simple. It is known as a "double bind". It works by creating the illusion of choice. Giving toddlers a choice is highly effective, and keeping the choices limited makes it even more effective. You never want to present a whole assortment of options. Just two or three choices at most. But the trick with a double bind is that the "choices" are all variants of the same basic outcome. There really is no choice!

Example: "Tommy, this is a great TV show. I want to finish watching it with you after I clean up from dinner. Do you want to help me put your supper on your plate right now, or would you like to help me pour you a glass of milk instead?"

As you can see, in this example, we've entered Tommy's world, then we've addressed the TV show he is watching. We then told him we want to finish watching it with him later (preparing him for transition to supper time without him knowing it). Then, finally, we presented him with a double bind. The choices were to help put dinner on his own plate, or help pour himself a glass of milk.

Do we really care which he chooses? No, of course not. They both result in Tommy pulling himself away from the TV set and joining you at the table.

Now, what I showed you in this example was very basic. Some parents already use it - but the power is in the setup! This is a fine point that is not well understood.

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